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きちんと理解してもらうことが大切。お客様、彼氏に対してのやきもち対策はしてますか?

この記事では、あなたに対する男性からの『やきもち』について考えてみたいと思います。夜の仕事は男性を接客するため、そこから口説かれたり、距離が近くなったりするのは当然のこと。

しかし、それをあなたのことが好きな男性、ましてや付き合ってる彼氏が知ったらどう思うでしょう?

貴女の事を好きな男性にとって、貴女が仕事とは言え、他の男性とイチャイチャしているのは、あまり気分がよくないものですね。

指名などで追加のお金を払っているのに、自分についてくれないとか、自分以外のお客と仲良く接客しているのを見ると、やきもちを焼くお客様も多いです。

またお客様ではなく、彼氏を考えてみましょう。

彼氏も貴女がこの仕事をしている事をあまりよく思っていないケースもあります。

Meltyが独自にとったアンケートでは13%の方が、彼氏にこっそり夜の仕事をやっていると回答されていました。   

また51%の方は、承諾をもらっているという回答です。

では、お客様と彼氏の場合に分けて対応法を見ていきたいと思います。

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お客様に対するやきもちの対応法

お客さまの焼きもちと、彼氏の焼きもちは、当然意味合いは少し異なりますが、異性同士である以上、やきもち対策をするのはいい人間関係を保つためにもとても大切ですね。

やきもちを焼く理由を考える

まず焼きもち対策を考える上で、大切なのは、やきもちを焼いてくれるのは、貴女に対する関心があるからだという事ですね。

ですから「仕方ないでしょーー」「大人気ないねーー」という態度を示すよりも、

お客さまや彼が貴女に関心をもってくれている事を感謝したり、嫌な思いをさせている事を、気にしているという言葉や姿勢を示す事が大切です。

「ごめんね、やきもち焼かせてしまって」「有難う。関心持ってくれて」という言葉で随分相手の心は和むものです。

特別であることを伝える

次に、貴女にとってその相手が、他の焼きもちをやかせているような相手と比べて、『特別である事』『一番である事』『別格である事』を、伝える事が出来ます。

お店で指名がかぶった時には、よく言われますが、「仕方ない、行ってくるか、すぐもどってくるから、待ってて」などのように、

目の前のお客さまの方が、優先度が高くて、本命なんだけど、仕方なく業務上、他のお客さまにいくのだという感じを見せる訳です。

自分が特別なんだという気持ちを相手にいだかせることができれば、相手の気持ちも収まります。

彼氏に対するやきもちの対応方法

彼氏の場合も基本は同じです。

そもそもあなたがなぜ夜のお店で働かないといけないのかという理由は彼氏は知っていますか?

働く理由と仕事の内容を伝える

まず、大切なのは彼氏になぜ夜のお店で働く必要があるのか、きちんと伝えることです。親への仕送り、奨学金返済、生活のため、夢のため、借金がある、貯金、、夜働きだすきっかけは様々です。

奨学金返済に昼職だけで賄えずどうしてもまとまったお金が必要だから、という理由で働いていてやめろという彼氏はいるでしょうか?

働く上で、きちんと働く理由を理解してもらうことが大切です。

さらには、どういった内容の仕事なのかもきちんと伝えましょう。水商売というとイチャイチャしたりするイメージも多いかと思いますが、一般的にはお客様とお酒を飲みながら楽しく話す場所。

キスをしたりベタベタする場所では本来ありません。

客層にもよりますが、できるだけ紳士的なお客様が来るお店を探し、彼氏にもどういった環境のお店なのかを話し、安心してもらって働くようにしましょう。

現状の優先度を伝える

さらに、働く理解をしてもらった上でも、お客様との付き合いや、同伴、アフターなどで、どうしても彼氏との時間が合わなくなってしまうことがあります。

こういった付き合いがあるからこそ売上も上がるため、これらは必要な時間です。しかし、これがどーうしても理解できない男性も多いのです。

『俺と客のどっちが大切なんだ』
『休日まで客と時間を過ごすのか』
『お店が終わって何してたんだ』
『ずっと客とメールしてるのか』

女性だって楽しくない場所でも楽しいふりをしたり、次の日早いのに夜おそくなって寝不足になったり、本来休日であるのにもかかわらずお客様と過ごさなければならない時、営業メールをしなければならない時もあり、辛いときだってあります。

それなのにそういう風に言われるとしんどいですよね。しかし、その店外の時間も仕事のうちなのだと伝えましょう。

仕事なので仕方ない、ホントは一緒にいたい、早く帰りたいというような、本来の優先度は、彼氏が上なんだけど、

仕方なく仕事のために今は優先度が変わっているのだというような雰囲気を匂わせる事で、理解を示してもらう事ができます。

あなたの人生はあなたのものであって、彼氏の人生ではありません。

彼氏ともっと一緒にいたい気持ちは大切ですが、彼氏のいう通りに動いていると自分の本当に目指すゴールがわからなくなってしまいます。

自立した女性になって、仕事も全力で頑張ることが大切です。

一緒にいる時に全力で楽しむ

そしてとどめは、一緒にいる時間の過ごし方です。

やきもちを焼くのが馬鹿馬鹿しいと相手が思うほど、優しく楽しく甘く接してみてください。

あんな焼きもち焼いて大人気なかった、やはり貴女が一番だと思ってもらえたら、やきもち対策としては、成功ですね。

やきもち対策の4ポイントまとめ

いかがでしょうか?やきもち対策のポイントは4つ。

この4ステップをきちんと踏むことで、やきもち対策は万全です。彼氏もお客さまも大事な存在、うまく対応して、いい関係を維持しましょうね。

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